People have values and people have goals. They are different. A goal is a target, a value is a state of being.
Values describe WHO you are.
I spend a lot of time with my clients on clarifying both their values and goals. They are different. (Read this post if you need more on values vs goals.)
Here is my suggested way to become even more clear on your values:
Many values. One of the first places to start it to recognize that we all can have MANY values. This is what makes clarifying your values fun. Don’t limit yourself when you start to work on clarifying your values.
Ongoing process. Let’s recognize that this can and should be an ongoing process. Over time we will hone our values, and add to or change them.
Write them. Written values are one of the best ways to keep them present and to honor them. Very few people have written values, so you are not alone if you don’t.
Brainstorm. Start by brainstorming about all of your values. Sometimes it is useful to do it with a close friend or family member. (Sometimes not!) Come up with as many as you can.
Post it notes. Write each value on a separate post it note. (More later on how to use these.)
Present based. Write each value in the present. “I am financially sound.” “I eat healthy foods.” I exercise 3 times per week.” “I have integrity.” “I am trustworthy.” “I am helpful.”
Group the values. Using your post it notes, you will most likely find similarities or groups. Move the post-it notes into logical groupings. As an example, the above value statements of healthy foods and exercise might be grouped together.
Create a values document. Once you’ve set up the groups, you can create headings and write the values under those headings. They might include headings like “finances,” “health,” “family,” “community,” etc.
Then, you’re done!
But not really. Values work only if you keep them present, so regular review of those values will be useful in your quest to live your life to the fullest.
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